So we finally nailed down the ceremony details! We aren’t having an exclusively Irish ceremony but I picked a lot of great Irish ceremony passages that I think will go really well with our non-traditional ceremony.
Before I got In contact with our officiant I had no clue how to structure a ceremony. Now, if your ceremony is religious, you are quite lucky because its pretty much all structured out for you. Non-traditional ceremonies are basically whatever you want them to be, so if you have nowhere to start and no basis of how to begin…how could I make it come together?
Our wonderful officiant sent us the bare bones and all we had to do was fill in the gaps. And now, for those of you lost in this area, I am going to share it with you!
Here is what a bare bones ceremony looks like:
Greeting- The officiant greets the guests and announces the intention of marriage. You can change this up by adding a quote or a funny anecdote for the officiant today.
Declaration: The bride and groom declare their intent to marry. This can be made to be simple statements or quotes. You can also go traditional, “Jane, will you have John to be your husband…”
Reading: This doesn’t have to be a specific reading. This can actually be anything you want, it’s basically a break from the two of you and allows for friends to speak or sing.
Exchange of Vows
Second Reading: Again, another change to personalize the ceremony and get friends and family involved. We are actually skipping this one altogether because we want a short and sweet ceremony.
Exchange of Rings: You can keep it traditional or customize the readings however you want. We found a passage that was perfect for the ring exchange and very non traditional.
Special Ceremony: The place for the sand-pouring or Handfasting (like us)!
Declaration of Marriage, Blessing, and sending forth: It is as it sounds and totally alter-able to your needs!
Now that you know how to set up your ceremony, customize it! Today’s Pinspiration is of different books that have wonderful passages to use your ceremony.
“Pooh” whispered Piglet
“Yes, Piglet” replied Pooh.
“Nothing,” answered Piglet,
“…If you live to be a hundred, I want to live to be a hundred minus one day, so I never have to live without you.”
“It’s so much more friendly with two…”
“Some people care too much, I think it’s called love.”
“He’s more myself than I am. Whatever our souls are made of, his and mine are the same…He’s always in my mind; not as a pleasure to myself, but as my own being.”
“…Ultimately two people who love each other must ask themselves how much they hope for as their love grows and deepens, and how much risk they are willing to take…It is indeed a fearful gamble… Because it is the nature of love to create, a marriage itself is something which has to be created, so that, together we become a new creature.”
“I have for the first time found what I can truly love – I have found you. You are my sympathy – my better self – my good angel; I am bound to you with a strong attachment….a solemn passion is conceived in my heart; it leans to you, draws you to my center and spring of life, wraps my existence about you – and, kindling in pure powerful flame, fuses you and me in one.”
“A soul mate is someone who has locks that fit our keys, and keys to fit our locks. When we feel safe enough to open the locks, our truest selves step out and we can be completely and honestly who we are; we can be loved for who we are and not who we’re pretending to be…
Our soul mate is someone who shares our deepest longings, our sense of direction.
When we’re two balloons, and together our direction is up, chances are we’ve found the right person
Our soul mate is the one who makes life come to life.”
“What is REAL?” asked the Rabbit one day…
“Real isn’t how you’re made,” said the Skin Horse. “It’s a thing that happens to you When a child loves you for a long, long time, not just to play with, but Really loves you, then you become Real.”
“Does it hurt?” asked the Rabbit
“Sometimes,” said the Skin Horse…”When you are Real you don’t mind being hurt…”
“It doesn’t happen all at once,” said the Skin Horse. ” You become. It takes a long time…Generally, by the time you are Real, most of your hair has been loved off, and your eyes drop out and you get all loose in the joints and very shabby. But these things don’t matter at all because once you are Real you can’t be ugly, except to people who don’t understand.”
These are just a few of the passages I love! Are you having a non-traditional ceremony? What kinds of things did you include to make it personal?