Last night, I had a wedding disaster dream. It’s started…2 years in advance. As dreams go, it was ludicrous. Someone basically said I had to get married the next day, and, of course, I had nothing, except my dress. We ended up getting married in a dirty restaurant and I remember crying because I wouldn’t have photographs to remember it. So obviously my subconscious thinks photography is just as important as my conscious self.
So who else is getting crazy wedding dreams? I don’t put much stock in dreams, I am pretty sure they are just a mish mosh of things going on in my head, and obviously “wedding” was the predominant thought. I just thought I’d share, because I’d be interested to know what other weird wedding dreams others have had.
Now for the minor discouragement. Money talks. This is a fact, and it sucks.
I called the venue last week, just looking to set up a meeting and talk about what they would have to offer, how “the vision” could work with what they have, and maybe get a price quote. Since the venue price and the catering are lumped together, a price quote is very important. The person I ended up speaking with seemed to want to talk about the basics with me over the phone and I was not prepared. I must have sounded like a complete babbling idiot. I would have been ready for a face to face meeting, but not for an over the phone quick chat. Not to mention it sounded a lot like she really, really wanted to get off the phone. Even at my insistence that I would really like a face to face meeting, she seemed to dodge the question.
That is when I said it: “I can’t put a deposit down till the end of the year.” That was the killer of the conversation. She told me she would e-mail me a round about quote, and then got off the phone. Then it hit me. I wasn’t ready hand over a check, so they wouldn’t be ready to talk any time soon.
This is not a bash on them. Yes, the phone conversation was frustrating, but they of course have a business to run with many, many paying clients. To take the time out to meet with a possible client whose wedding is 2 years away isn’t at the height of their “to-do” list. I think my enthusiasm to book early and find out everything I can is an anomaly in the wedding world. I probably was asking all the questions a person who has already paid asks and on top of that I was spontaneously taking up this person’s valuable time.
It is sadly still a reminder that I am so broke, and cannot move forward when I REALLY, REALLY want to! Has anyone else gotten a little bit of a brush from vendors for one reason or another? How did you handle it? I want to call back and ask for pricing, but I don’t think I will be taking seriously until I say the magic words: “I’m ready to pay.”