As I was finishing the last bits of this bouquet, I started to think about our guest-list. We obviously want to have immediate family and close friends there, but we have the opposite problem as most couples. We are actually trying to find people to attend. The biggest problem for my side is the distance. I am getting married in a state that is seven hours plus away from most of my immediate family, not to say that they wouldn’t come…I hope…but it’s still is inconvenient for them. On top of that, many of my close friends now live in different places across the country. His side is much the same problem, since many of his close friends were made in the military; most of them now live scattered all over the country.
As I am mulling over all of this, a sinking thought dawns on me: What if no one comes? I’m sure that other brides have had this thought, but most of them probably had scads of family and friends, one of them was bound to show! Jimmy and I are very much the same. He and I keep three or four really close friends, and have many acquaintances. My extended family would give their well-wishes I’m sure, but I doubt they would be able to make the trek (many of them also live scattered across the country). I’m sure this is probably just a panicked emotion that will be alleviated when RSVPs come back to us, but it still worries me.
In order to try to ensure that many of the people who live elsewhere know about us with enough time to plan some time off, we are definitely going to have to send out save-the-date invitations.
Has any other bride thought that save-the-date cards are a waste of money? They are like a pre-invitation to the invitation. I always thought that would be something I would leave out to cut expense. Unfortunately, due to the fact that many of our invited guests will be traveling, it is important they know more than a few months ahead of time so they can plan.
Instead of complicated printing hassles, we need a K.I.S.S. (Keep It Simple Stupid) save-the-date. At first I thought: postcard! One page, really easy to print, and quite cheap as well. Here are some cute ones I found:
The last one really brings up another good idea: picture save-the-dates. In our situation, this could be really nice, especially since most of our guests who live outside of Maine have never seen us together. It’s a good way to say “Meet Us!”
Another plus with picture save-the-dates is that sometimes photographers will include save the date cards with the photo engagement session. This can be a way for you to save on having to assemble something yourself, or go to an outside party.
Here are some cute photo save-the-dates:
Has anyone else noticed the save-the-date abbreviated is S.T.D.? I giggle a little every time I think about sending everyone an STD…
These are all really cute ideas, but THIS time I am confident in saying that the boy and I have decided to go a different route. I am incredibly frugal, and really like to spend no money if the situation should allow for it. Since we both have vast imaginations, and love spending time together, we thought of a really fun save-the-date project that we both love. It is fun, new, and very out of the box.
We are keeping mum for now, so instead I will share with you some out of the box save-the-dates others have thought of:
You will just have to wait for our EPIC save the dates! Think…animated… 🙂